Just found these notes.....
14th
June 2016
Incredible
Years – Early Childhood perspective PD
Alison
Flutey
If children can’t manage themselves
behaviourly then they can’t “learn academically” We see this time and time again and the time and effort put into "improving their behaviour" pays off in the end.
How can we continue to build/develop
relationships with our “difficult” students…
What other proactive strategies do we need
to use?
Suggestion not to use “endearments” – not
professional – should use names. I personally think that some children may never be shown much love and it's my nature to use "endearments" towards all my students.
Children notice if you don’t talk to them
or don’t talk to their parents…..
Using parents’ names is important too.
Our play “golden time” in the afternoon is
a great way to build relationships. Letting children take the lead and sitting at
their level. Modelling desired behaviours along side them, rather than taking
over.
Commenting is much more useful than
questioning. – giving positive attention to desired behaviour.
Emotional commenting is very powerful for
our vulnerable children.
- Use words like calm, proud, excited,
confident, frustrated, disappointed
‘Using when and then’ & ‘Short commands’
– feeling like we use these well – particularly with our difficult children. What about when these aren't working......
Remembering to praise for little things
What choices can we give to our children to
help them do the right thing? You need to do your work vs are you going to do it
by yourself or with my help? Maybe this will work better than "when/then" for some
Waiting rather than sharing – Learning to
wait is more difficult but more helpful than having to share – May need to use commenting some more on that.
Ignore behaviour not the child – praise the
minute they are doing the right thing to feed back into the self esteem.
Try not to show the children how frustrated
you might be feeling with them.
Children coming to you upset start with
“well done you walked away”.
Emotional/social coaching. Then what would you like to do about that?
Need to get back to doing little
certificates/notes home
Slow down and make time for positive
praise.